I love the wall on my facebook page. It’s covered with greetings from friends, quotes, photo’s, song and video links. I administrate on a few more pages- so these walls are walls where I write but am identified as the page I am writing for. I am protected by anonymity. Then there are the walls behind the walls- support pages where I meet with other writers to support and encourage and teach each other. Many many walls each with many varying levels of intimacy and exposure of self to others.
These walls are so similar to the walls I write on and build within me. There are the public walls that I build and write on. They show the real me but are ‘sanitised’ for public consumption. The support walls operate between friends and family members. There is another wall that my spiritual family and my Pastor write on that often overlaps the ‘friends’ wall, and lastly my innermost wall that God and I write on. Most of the walls serve their own distinct purposes and have differing levels of need and expression of those needs, differing levels of giving and receiving.
Lately I’ve been called to answer how many of those walls have been built and written on by the fear of rejection. We all have that fear and all have experienced it to varying degrees. The fear of being cast aside, disregarded, not acknowledged, abandoned. A feeling of being inferior, not accepted, seen to be of lesser value. It may have come as a result of being unwanted at birth, forced to vie for parental affection, struggle due to physical, mental or emotional disabilities, or the pain of physical, sexual or emotional abuse. Perhaps it is just that you perceive you aren’t being rewarded with the attention you think you deserve. It may come from fear of the future- of being old, feeble and cast aside, or of losing your mind to alzheimers. Regardless of where and why the fear of rejection began, satan will make sure that the root of rejection flourishes within your life and that it grows with the speed and vigour of the most detested weed it is.
The pain of rejection causes us to build wall after wall of protection within our minds to ward off that pain. The walls are fortified by our negative thoughts and defective coping strategies. Even as Christians who walk in the knowledge of the love and acceptance that we have in our beautiful Jesus, we can still build walls to protect ourselves from the rejection we feel directed towards us from the world. Know this though- each wall we build separates us from the work the Father would have us do. It separates us from the people we were sent to love. It separates us from the spirit that resides within us as we fail to surrender to the renewing work of healing and restoration. With each wall we build to ‘protect’ ourselves, we deny our potential to grow and become all that we can be in Christ. We must brick- by- brick tear down each of our walls with the help of the Holy Spirit and trust that God will do the protecting. He IS all we need. God will build your walls of protection and He will protect you from all harm- we just need to trust Him.
“Afflicted city, lashed by storms and not comforted,
I will rebuild you with stones of turquoise,
your foundations with lapis lazuli.
I will make your battlements of rubies,
your gates of sparkling jewels,
and all your walls of precious stones.
All your children will be taught by the LORD,
and great will be their peace.
In righteousness you will be established:
Tyranny will be far from you;
you will have nothing to fear.
Terror will be far removed;
it will not come near you.
If anyone does attack you, it will not be my doing;
whoever attacks you will surrender to you.
“See, it is I who created the blacksmith
who fans the coals into flame
and forges a weapon fit for its work.
And it is I who have created the destroyer to wreak havoc;
no weapon forged against you will prevail,
and you will refute every tongue that accuses you.
This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD,
and this is their vindication from me,”
declares the LORD.”~ Isaiah 54:11-17 (New International Version)
© 2011 Giving Thanks Daily, Sue King
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